Tesoro, trésor, schat… treasure
When you google images the word treasure you will find several hundred photos of chests stuffed full of golden coins and jewelry, caves and maps. Call back every pirate movie you have ever watched. They make an epic journey and in the end they find the chest. It’s almost never full of what they were looking for in the first place. The main character is usually not happy with the actual treasure. They realize that what would make them happy was with them all along.
That’s why I feel like the real treasure is our journey. Our life. What you’re doing right now. Reading this post, snuggling by your fire, glancing up at the blinking Christmas tree, sending your bundled kids off to the bus, waking up at 6am every day, failing, winning, laughing and crying. Even the difficult moments or the hard parts in life are what makes it worth being truly alive, because you have no doubt heard the famous saying… “You can’t make a diamond without pressure.” Bring it on because I’m coming out shiny!
So… 3 basic ways to
Whatever is happening in this moment right now is and will remain what is happening. Unless there is something you can do literally and immediately to stop it. Honestly though if you could would you want to? Your kids are running around screaming at the top of their lungs, and your first reaction is to halt the activity. It’s distracting you, and hurting your ears, but do you want to? I found myself in a moment like this once, and as I opened my mouth I realized they were so happy. They were smiling and laughing. My daughters scream is actually a loud, high-pitched squeal of joy. Shes playing with her brother, and they are having a wonderful moment. I decided right then and there to accept what was happening and try to let it bring me joy too.
2. Check in
In more ways than the obvious. Set a day once a week where you check in with all of your loved ones, your inner circle. Send them each a quick text that you love them or are thinking about them. Call your Grandma. Then, check in with yourself. Take a moment to tune in with how you feel. Are you taking care of you? Have you drunk enough water? You have heard it before but it’s easy to ignore so I will tell you again. Your no good to anybody if you’re no good to you. Physically, mentally and emotionally allow yourself some time for self-care. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time. Any little amount is a great start.
Allow yourself and your family some room to fail. I will never forget this random Facebook post I read that encouraged us to ask our kids what they failed at today. I tried it out and realized how much I loved the idea. To fail also means that you tried. Trying is honestly one of the most important things we can do. So pat yourself on the back when you fail and be gracious when your family fails because all it really means is they are trying, the last thing you want is for them to give up on that.